The Important Things

I’ll admit it.  I totally have anxiety about spending time away from my baby.

Our financial situation necessitated me going back to work after Theodore’s birth.  We tried really hard to figure out a way from me to stay home with Theodore but it always came back to the fact that life would just be a little too tight without a second income.

Luckily we were able to find a great daycare.  The two ladies that run the baby room are sisters and have been working at this same daycare center for 30 years.  They are so sweet and completely capable which has made being away from my baby so many hours every week much easier for me.  I definitely feel like he’s being well taken care of when I’m away from him.

But being away from him for work is enough.  It’s more than enough. Continue reading


Theodore – Month 4


My sweet little boy, Theodore, turned 4 months old on Friday!  

I left work early Friday to meet my hubby and baby at the clinic for Theodore’s 4 month immunizations.  Before he had his first full round of immunizations at 2 months I asked the doctor why it was so important to do so many at once.  She gave me some blanket answer about why immunizations, in general, are so important and that he needs to be kept on schedule, etc, etc.  So basically, it seemed the answer was her time is more valuable than ours so they need to be done all at once.   I really like her, she’s a very good pediatrician, but in the future I think I’m going to decide what is best for my son, and that might be spacing them out a bit.

He actually took those 2 month immunizations like a champ.  He just went home and slept it off.  But his 4 month immunizations seemed to bother him a lot more.  It took us 2 1/2 hours to get him down to sleep that night.  He was so fussy and nothing seemed to helped so eventually we gave him a little tylenol and I let him fall asleep in his swing, which I have never done before (except a day-time nap).  My good sleeper woke up at least 4 times during the night.  Twice he was able to put himself back to sleep but twice I had to get up and feed him.  We’ve only had to get up with him two nights in the past 6 weeks or so, not counting Friday night, so we were really like “what is going on kid?!”

I’m sure some of the issue is the dreaded 4 month sleep regression.  I can tell his sleep is definitely changing and overall becoming a little lighter.  He’s not the sleepy newborn that can nap in loud restaurants or sleep through the dogs barking anymore.  I’m glad he’s becoming more of a little person but hey – mama’s gotta sleep!

So month 4…what has the kid been up to?

He has started to have a very definite laugh and he often squeals when he gets excited.  He learned how to splash in the tub, which is the more adorable thing I’ve ever seen but literally leaves me completely soaked!  Hubs and I went on the Maid of the Mist a few years ago (the boat that goes down around Niagara Falls).  I have kept the ponchos all this time because it was a stop on our honeymoon and I might have to drag them out for bath time!

Theodore becomes bored easily and wants to be talked to, held, and played with pretty much all his waking hours.  It’d be annoying if he wasn’t the cutest thing I’ve ever laid eyes on.  It makes getting ready for work in the morning very difficult though because he’s taken to waking up a little before I need to get up.

He still likes his swing but also has recently started to enjoy his Finding Nemo bouncer.  Last month he would only let us cradle him to feed him but this month he seems to be enjoying the cuddles much more, which make me a happy mama!  His hand-eye coordination has improved greatly and he’s starting to like to play with toys.

Two weeks ago I got to celebrate my first Mother’s Day with Theodore.  My husband got up and got us donuts and made mimosas.  We went out for lunch that day at one of our favorite new pizza places and then the three of us headed over to a nursery to pick out flowers for my new flower pot.  I got at least one of each of the pansy varieties because they remind of my grandma who always grew them.

We got professional photos taken last weekend in honor of him being 4 months old.  He was absolutely not having it and I’m shocked that the photographer, Rachel, was able to get any good photos from it.  There are definitely a few where he looks annoyed, apprehensive, or on the verge of tears but there were actually quite a few good ones too.  I was still a bit disappointed though because he has been SO smiley lately and we couldn’t get very many smiles out of him during photos.  They just seemed kind of unrepresentative of his personality .

Lastly, little boy has had some skin issues since he was a few weeks old.  It’s pretty normal stuff- dry skin, eczema, and cradle cap.  The doctor gave him a prescription for a cream and we saw huge improvements with just one application which is great!  So we’re keeping that up twice a day for the next few weeks.  I’m so glad it’s making a difference.


Crowdfunding Babies?!

The day before Mother’s Day a Facebook friend posted a picture of her and her husband out for dinner with another couple with the hashtags #infertilitysucks and #ttccommunity.  So many feelings rushed through my head when I saw this photo.  I was happy that they were making the best of a bad situation.  I felt heartbroken that they’ve been trying so hard for a baby and have nothing to show for it.  I was curious about how long they’ve been trying and what medications/procedures/tests/doctors have been evolved in the equation.

I actually started to send her a Facebook message a couple times.  I kept deleting it and starting over, and eventually I just deleted it and signed out.  What was I going to say?  Sorry this sucks so much, I’ve been there too?  I really didn’t know if there was anything I could do or say to make anything better for her.  After all, there is nothing worse that being a mom without a child on Mother’s Day. Continue reading

The Registry Low-Down

I can’t believe how many people I’ve met in the IF community have finally gotten their BFPs lately!  I’m so excited for them and wanted to share a few baby items that we loved since making a baby registry can be daunting, even if you’ve been planning it for years, trust me!

  1. If you like sleep, like even a tiny bit, swaddle blankets are where it’s at!  We bought both the blanket type and the velcro type.  For our baby the velcro type worked best it seemed like they were capable of swaddling tighter which our baby needed as he fought it quite a bit those first few weeks (now he loves it and puts his arms down for us right away).  He was a winter baby so we had a couple Halo Microfleece swaddles in a small size and now that it’s getting warmer we bought him a couple Summer Infant cotton swaddles.  They aren’t cheap but for us they were worth their weight in gold!
  2. We have a two story home and the bedrooms are upstairs so we love our Diaper Genie.  It’s much nicer to only have to run dirty diapers to the outside trash once a week or so.  The more expensive version has a foot peddle which can be convenient but the cheaper version, the Playtex Diaper Genie Essentials Pail, is actually much better as containing the smell, which is the whole point.  


  3. When I was pregnant I kept hearing babies usually either love the swing or the bouncer.  We registered and received both.  Our baby greatly preferred his swing and was useful for his more challenging days.  Yes, I felt like a lazy mom sometimes but 1) he loved it so much! and 2) on occasion he was inconsolable by anything else.  We loved this Fisher Price Cradle ‘n’ Swing – My Little Lamb.  My son LOVED the mobile with lights on this one.g6
  4. Before Theodore was born I really thought we’d only use a Pack ‘n’ Play when we visited family but since both of our parents live 5-6 hours away we knew we would need one for sure.  It turns out this is one piece of baby gear we literally use every single day.  Ours has a bassinet that flips over to a changing station.  Both come in very handy and we have it set up in our living room.  We really liked his Graco Pack ‘n’ Play Playard Portable Napper and Changer but there are plenty useful versions.g7
  5. I originally got the Boppy because I thought I would be breastfeeding.  I wasn’t able to breastfeed because of supply issues but I still use my Boppy to more comfortably position my baby for feeding.  There are other brands of breastfeeding pillows that are probably just as good but I’d definitely recommend some type of feeding pillow.g5
  6.  We tried to live without a humidifier but our baby’s skin was so incredibly dry without it.  I can’t speak for others humidifiers but this Crane Cool Mist Humidifier works well and is so quiet!
  7. NoseFridas are kind of gross.  You literally suck the snot out of their little nose but it works, unlike those crappy bulbs, and when you’re kid is sick you’re pretty much willing to do anything you can to make him or her feel better.
  8. The Phillips Avent Soothie pacifiers were the kind our hospital (and I think most hospitals) use.  He liked it so we bought a few more.  I wasn’t overly keen on the idea of pacifiers but it’s easier to take away a pacifier when it’s time than it is a thumb.  
  9. If you’re planning on bottle feeding some sort of bottle drying rack is essential we liked this one by Muchkin.  If you’re planning on pumping I’ve heard the Boon Drying Grass works well for drying pump parts.
  10. Also, at some point you will need some diaper rash cream.  Some people use it every time they change a diaper.  We liked this Burt’s Bee Diaper Rash Cream.  It works and it smells really good, the downside is it’s kind of expensive but our first tube has lasted us 3 months.


  11. Lastly, an infant car seat.  Yes, you will need a convertible car seat at some point and could, technically, skip the infant seat step but they are so much more convenient!  It’s nice to be able to situate the baby inside when it’s raining or cold out.  It’s also nice to hold the baby when at a store or restaurant.  We got this Graco Click Connect 35 for my car and a convertible seat for my husband’s car.  About twice a week we kick ourselves for not just biting the bullet and purchasing a second base for the infant seat for his car since it’s larger and more comfortable when we are all going someplace.

One thing I realized when I was registering was every place wants you to buy as much as you can so they often recommend way more than you really need of things.  For example, a lot of places recommend 3-5 sets of sheets and 2-3 mattress protectors.  I bought 3 sets of sheets and 2 would have been plenty.  We have one mattress protector and haven’t had any issues with not having enough.  Also babies shouldn’t sleep with a blanket until they are over a year old so you don’t NEED a whole bedding set.  We chose to get one anyway because it matched everything else we bought and we didn’t want to have to try to find something that matched later on.  

Lastly, if you’re bottle feeding, and likely you’ll have to at some point, even if it’s just once in a blue moon, don’t get overly attached to a brand of bottles before your child is born.  We bought bottles and extra nipples in higher flows for when he gets older.  He liked any bottle just fine but they leaked terribly and his stomach seemed more upset by them then it does with his new bottles.  Currently we use Dr. Browns Options bottles.  They also leak a little but it has really helped his tummy.

If there is anything you’re on the fence about and want to ask if it was helpful for our baby feel free!  Or if you want to add something you thought was amazing and other moms should know about!

Theodore’s Closet – April 2016

These are some of the looks I’ve been swooning over lately.


I’ve been trying to cut back my purchases but some of this stuff is too cute!  The grey Oshkosh B’Gosh sweater is for his 4 month photos in May and the H&M anchor overalls are for his 7 month photos in August.  I’m so excited to have some more professional photos of Theodore taken by the very talented Rachel Manzke Photography.  My little Theodore’s newborn photos are being featured on her site right now!

My goal for May is making it to the H&M store across town to find Theodore the Ramones t-shirt because, well, everyone needs a Ramones shirt.